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Relationship abuse is any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or never ok logothreatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members.

It can be experienced by people of any gender, sexuality, ethnicity or age.

Forms of abuse

Domestic/relationship abuse can take many forms, and can start at any time during a relationship. Types of abuse could include: 

  • Psychological
  • Physical
  • Sexual
  • Financial
  • Emotional

Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and abilities for personal gain.  This will often involve depriving them of their independence, resistance and escape and regulating their daily activities.  This could also include controlling how much money you have and how you spend it, or what you wear.

Coercive behaviour is a single act or pattern of assaults, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten a person.  This includes 'honour' based abuse, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage.  Coercive behaviour could involve threatening to make photos or information about you public.

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Getting advice

For confidential, non-judgemental advice and support you can contact Leeway on 0300 561 0077.  Leeway charity works across Norfolk and Waveney, supporting adults, children and young people who are experiencing domestic/relationship abuse.

Specialist Support Service

Leeway offer telephone support and hold weekly appointments on the UEA campus, where you can speak confidentially to an outreach worker.  An outreach worker can provide advice, emotional and practical support, including advice on issues such as financial, legal, housing, welfare and safety concerns.

Outreach appointments are held in a safe and confidential space on campus. 

Appointments are available to all students and staff.  These are booked directly with Leeway, your details will not be shared with the university unless you give permission to do so.

Male Services

Leeway offer services for males experiencing relationship abuse, this service is confidential and independent of any other of Leeway's services.  It is staffed by specialist workers and provide advice and support, tailored to meet men’s individual needs. 

For further information contact: 0300 561 0077

Children & Young People’s Outreach Service

Leeway provides support to children and young people who have been affected by relationship abuse, this includes one to one support, group work and after school activities.

I need help with my behaviour

If you need help to handle disagreements constructively or help forming healthy relationships, you can obtain free confidential advice from Relate.  For more information or to chat to a trained member of staff, contact 0300 100 1234 or visit 

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Support from UEA

The UEA recognises that employees and students will be amongst those affected by domestic/relationship abuse, whether historic or current.  It is committed to providing high quality and comprehensive support, and making reasonable adjustments to help maintain a safe environment for all.  

  • Student: If you are a student, and are concerned about your studies, finding alternative accommodation or financial issues then help can also be accessed from the Student Support Service or Students' Union.
  • Staff: The university is committed to family friendly working and seeks to benefit the welfare of individual employees. Human Resources and Line Managers can offer a broad range of support, this may include leave for appointments, access to support services, adjustments to work and/or changes to ensure a safe working environment. 

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